{"id":989456,"date":"2023-12-20T03:53:31","date_gmt":"2023-12-20T03:53:31","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/thathappyhealth.com\/?p=989456"},"modified":"2024-04-13T18:11:47","modified_gmt":"2024-04-13T17:11:47","slug":"mother-hood-a-transformative-journey","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/thathappyhealth.com\/sq\/mother-hood-a-transformative-journey\/","title":{"rendered":"Eksperienca ime pes\u00ebvje\u00e7are si n\u00ebn\u00eb"},"content":{"rendered":"<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"989456\" class=\"elementor elementor-989456\" data-elementor-post-type=\"post\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-234b348 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"234b348\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-6e6151b\" data-id=\"6e6151b\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-d010e88 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"d010e88\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.17.0 - 25-10-2023 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>P\u00ebrvoja ime pes\u00ebvje\u00e7are si n\u00ebn\u00eb ka qen\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00ebtim transformues, i ndikuar thell\u00ebsisht nga edukimi im n\u00eb kultur\u00ebn tradicionale t\u00eb Kosov\u00ebs. N\u00eb Kosov\u00eb, si n\u00eb shum\u00eb vende, ekziston nj\u00eb besim i fort\u00eb se f\u00ebmij\u00ebt duhet t\u00eb sillen n\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb t\u00eb caktuar, dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb e zakonshme q\u00eb prind\u00ebrit t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorin t\u00eb b\u00ebrtiturat ose rrahjet p\u00ebr t\u00eb disiplinuar. I rritur n\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kultur\u00eb, fillimisht mendova se ishte normale t\u00eb p\u00ebrdorja k\u00ebto metoda. Madje u vonova t\u00eb b\u00ebhesha prind p\u00ebr kat\u00ebr vjet, sepse e dija se nuk isha gati t\u00eb p\u00ebrqafoja nj\u00eb qasje t\u00eb ndryshme, m\u00eb t\u00eb durueshme ndaj prind\u00ebrimit.<\/p>\n<p>Kur m\u00eb n\u00eb fund u b\u00ebra n\u00ebn\u00eb, isha e vendosur t\u00eb m\u00ebsoja dhe t\u00eb rritesha. Kjo rrug\u00eb m\u00eb \u00e7oi te autor\u00eb si Daniel Siegel, Tina Bryson, Alfie Kohn dhe Gabor Mate, t\u00eb cil\u00ebt m\u00eb fut\u00ebn n\u00eb bot\u00ebn e prind\u00ebrimit pozitiv. Ky ishte nj\u00eb ndryshim i r\u00ebnd\u00ebsish\u00ebm nga normat e mia kulturore. V\u00ebshtrimet e Siegel dhe Bryson p\u00ebr edukimin dhe mir\u00ebkuptimin, k\u00ebndv\u00ebshtrimi i Kohn p\u00ebr prind\u00ebrimin pa shp\u00ebrblime apo nd\u00ebshkime dhe reflektimet e Mate se si na form\u00ebson f\u00ebmij\u00ebria jon\u00eb, t\u00eb gjitha luajt\u00ebn nj\u00eb rol vendimtar n\u00eb riformimin e stilit tim t\u00eb prind\u00ebrimit.<\/p>\n<p>Zbatimi i k\u00ebtyre koncepteve t\u00eb reja nuk ishte i leht\u00eb. Ka pasur raste kur normat kulturore me t\u00eb cilat jam rritur bien ndesh me at\u00eb q\u00eb m\u00ebsoja. Por me kalimin e koh\u00ebs, kuptova r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e krijimit t\u00eb nj\u00eb mjedisi ndjeshm\u00ebrie, respekti dhe mir\u00ebkuptimi p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tim. M\u00ebsova t\u00eb komunikoj pa b\u00ebrtitur, t\u00eb disiplinoj pa goditur dhe t\u00eb njoh emocionet e f\u00ebmij\u00ebs tim, duke p\u00ebrfshir\u00eb zem\u00ebrimin dhe trishtimin, si t\u00eb vlefshme dhe t\u00eb r\u00ebnd\u00ebsishme.<\/p>\n<p>Ky udh\u00ebtim nuk kishte t\u00eb b\u00ebnte vet\u00ebm me ndryshimin e m\u00ebnyr\u00ebs si prind\u00ebrova; ishte p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndryshuar veten time. Zbulova thell\u00ebsi durimi dhe ndjeshm\u00ebrie brenda meje q\u00eb nuk e dija se ekzistonin. U b\u00ebra m\u00eb i vet\u00ebdijsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr emocionet e mia dhe se si ato ndikuan n\u00eb veprimet e mia. Ky vet\u00eb-zbulim ishte nj\u00eb pjes\u00eb thelb\u00ebsore p\u00ebr t'u b\u00ebr\u00eb prindi q\u00eb doja t\u00eb isha.<\/p>\n<p>Prind\u00ebrve t\u00eb tjer\u00eb, ve\u00e7an\u00ebrisht atyre q\u00eb vijn\u00eb nga kultura me norma t\u00eb rrepta prind\u00ebrimi, dua t'u them: \u00cbsht\u00eb n\u00eb rregull t\u00eb zgjedh\u00ebsh nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb tjet\u00ebr. P\u00ebrqafimi i prind\u00ebrimit pozitiv nuk i sjell dobi vet\u00ebm f\u00ebmij\u00ebs suaj; t\u00eb transformon n\u00eb m\u00ebnyra t\u00eb bukura. Ju m\u00ebsoni m\u00eb shum\u00eb p\u00ebr veten tuaj, rriteni n\u00eb durim dhe mir\u00ebkuptim dhe nd\u00ebrtoni nj\u00eb marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnie m\u00eb t\u00eb fort\u00eb dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb dashur me f\u00ebmij\u00ebn tuaj.<\/p>\n<p>Udh\u00ebtimi i prind\u00ebrimit nuk ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb vet\u00ebm me rritjen e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije; ka t\u00eb b\u00ebj\u00eb me rritjen si person. B\u00ebhet fjal\u00eb p\u00ebr thyerjen e cikleve, sfidimin e normave dhe krijimin e nj\u00eb mjedisi t\u00eb ri edukues p\u00ebr f\u00ebmij\u00ebt tan\u00eb. \u00cbsht\u00eb nj\u00eb rrug\u00eb e t\u00eb m\u00ebsuarit dhe p\u00ebrshtatjes s\u00eb vazhdueshme, dhe \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga p\u00ebrvojat m\u00eb shp\u00ebrblyese q\u00eb jeta ka p\u00ebr t\u00eb ofruar.<\/p>\n<p>Majlinda Bytyqi<br \/>N\u00ebna e nj\u00eb f\u00ebmije,<\/p>\n<p>https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/majlindabytyci<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>My five-year experience as a mother has been a transformative journey, deeply influenced by my own upbringing in Kosovo&#8217;s traditional culture. In Kosovo, like in many places, there&#8217;s a strong belief that children should behave a certain way, and it&#8217;s common for parents to use yelling or spanking to discipline. 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